From the book Texting
Better messages. Real chemistry. No games.
Write messages that are easy to answer, and turn a good conversation into a real date. No scripts, no pressure, no performing a fake personality.
A good conversation is co-created.
Most chats don't die because someone said something wrong. They fade because there was nothing to pick up. Three small habits fix most of it.
1
Be specific
Notice something real. A detail beats a compliment, and a question beats “how are you?”
2
Give them something to answer
Answer, then add one small hook: a detail, a choice, a tiny confession.
3
Make the plan clear
A time, a place, and room for a no is easier to say yes to than “we should hang out.”
Sam
Parking disaster. Circled for twenty minutes, then gave up and walked.
- Flat
Haha nice
- Fixed
Twenty minutes?! Tell me you at least got a snack out of it.
Free downloads
Two free sheets for your next message
- First Message Fix. Ten boring openers, fixed. One page.
- The Reply Rewriter. Flat texts rewritten so they're easy to answer, with a one-line reason for each.
The book
Texting.
A Practical Guide to Better Messages, Chemistry, and Dating
By Alex Brandt. Chapters 1 and 2 of each edition are free to read and listen to.
Men's Edition
Written for men who want better messages and an easier move to a real date.
Women's Edition
Written for women who want warmer, clearer conversations without chasing.
Make the next message easy to answer.
Start with the quiz. It takes about a minute and a half.